What If We Printed One? (One Minute Memoir)

A Memoir on Family Brainstorming, Things We Could Have Bought, and Other Unnecessary Objects

Setting: March 2026

Most evenings at dinner lately, the conversation turns to the 3D printer. Not because we need anything, but because we can. Someone throws out an idea and we all build on it from there.

“Caleb, you should print a French horn for your band teacher,” I say.

“Or a whole music staff,” my dad adds.

“Wait. What instrument does she actually play?”

Phones come out. Screens get turned across the table. Someone finds something, passes it over, and the question always follows: “Could you print that?”

At some point, Caleb started keeping a list in the Notes app on his phone. Just a running collection of things to make next.

The funny part is that most of the things on that list already exist. They’re things we could easily buy, usually for a few dollars, and definitely in less time than it takes us to make them.

We’ve already spent hours printing things that fall into that category. A toothbrush holder that took most of the day. Fidget toys. Replacement doll shoes for my mom's collection. Balloon dogs. Small baskets for our book counter numbers. A replacement back cover for a Wii remote we thought was gone for good.

None of it was necessary. None of it was urgent. And all of it took significantly longer than just buying it.

That’s what makes it a little hard to explain.

Why spend hours printing something that already exists? Why wait for it to build, layer by layer, when you could just click “add to cart” and be done with it?

There isn’t really a good answer.

It’s novelty. A little pointless. Completely unnecessary.

And still, every time a print finishes, the boys run upstairs to see it. Sometimes they argue over who gets to scrape it off the build plate.

When we first got the printer, we stood there watching the very first layer go down. Just a thin line of melted plastic slowly tracing its shape. We watched it like it was magic.

Now the house is slowly filling with things that didn’t need to exist. And somehow, that’s not the part that matters.

The part that matters is the moment someone pauses mid-conversation and says, “Wait… what if we printed one?”

And just like that, we’re all leaning in again, turning our screens toward each other, trying to see if we can.

This post is part of my One-Minute Memoir series — short reflections on small moments that still manage to say something big.

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A Season of Thrillers

On reading habits, fragmented attention, and the books that pull you through

I’ve always been the kind of reader who moves around.

Whenever someone asks what I read, I tend to answer with “a little bit of everything.” Memoirs. Mysteries. Romance. Chick lit. Women’s fiction. Young adult. True crime. I’ve never been loyal to one genre for very long. My reading life has always been a little scattered, a little curious, a little of everything.

Recently, though, I noticed something strange. Not while reading. While tracking.

I built a new reading tracker at the beginning of the year. I log each book I read and categorize it in a variety of ways. One of the columns asks for genre, which means every time I finish a book I have to stop for a second and categorize it.

Mystery. Romance. Literary fiction. Thriller.

After entering a few books, I started to notice a pattern.

Thriller.
Thriller.
Thriller.
Thriller.

It wasn’t intentional. I hadn’t decided to read a bunch of thrillers. I hadn’t set out to do a “thriller month” or a themed reading stretch. But once I started logging them, it was impossible to ignore.

Nearly everything I’d read this year fell into the same category.

And that made me curious.

Because I still like the other genres. I still enjoy memoirs and women’s fiction and romance and YA. None of those have disappeared from my reading life. They just aren’t pulling me the way thrillers are right now.

The more I thought about it, the more I realized that thrillers do something very specific that other genres don’t.

They move.

They are built for momentum. Short chapters. Cliffhangers. New information constantly appearing. Every chapter quietly nudging you forward: just one more.

If your attention is fragmented, thrillers are forgiving in a way other books aren’t. You don’t need long stretches of quiet focus. You can read a few pages here, a chapter there. The story grabs you again almost immediately.

Some books ask for patience. Thrillers don’t. They grab your sleeve and pull. And lately, that kind of momentum has been exactly what my brain seems to want.

Part of it might be escape.

Not the cozy kind. I’ve always liked darker stories anyway. True crime, mysteries, things that are a little strange or unsettling. Thrillers sit right in the middle of all of that. They’re familiar territory.

But they also do something else: they make reading easy.

Not intellectually easy, necessarily. But structurally easy. The story keeps pushing forward whether your brain feels sharp that day or not.

And sometimes that’s exactly the kind of book you need.

There are seasons of reading where you want something slow and thoughtful. Something that sits with you for a while. Memoirs do that well. So does literary fiction.

But there are other seasons when what you really want is a book that simply carries you.

You open it. You start reading. And suddenly you’re a hundred pages in.

Thrillers are very good at that.

I suspect this phase will eventually pass. My reading habits tend to wander, and sooner or later something else will catch my attention. Maybe memoirs again. Maybe romance. Maybe something quieter.

But for now, when I open my tracker and start entering genres, the answer is usually the same.

Thriller.

Right now, they’re the only stories that don’t ask anything from me.

They just take over and carry me for a while.

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The Bigger I Am, The Smaller I Shrink

On Size and the Permission to Be Seen

I have lost more than 100 pounds twice.

The first time, I did it through sheer will. Counting. Tracking. Exercising for hours. Controlling everything I could.

The second time, I had surgery.

Neither was easy. Both required discipline. Both demanded something from me.

And after that second loss, something shifted.

I didn’t just weigh less. I moved differently.

I got LASIK eye surgery. I went to an esthetician to learn how to do my makeup. I bought clothes I wouldn’t have tried before. I took pictures of myself almost every day because I couldn’t believe what I looked like.

Holden or Caleb would take outfit-of-the-day photos for me in the yard. I’d scroll through them later like I was studying someone else. I looked lighter, sharper, more defined.

More visible.

My confidence wasn’t perfect. Even at 118 pounds, I fixated on the loose skin. My stomach didn’t match the fantasy. No number would have fixed that.

But I was there. In the frame. In the photos. In my own camera roll.

Then life shifted.

Divorce. Moving. A job change. Stress layered on top of stress. Structure dissolved. Some of the weight came back... not all of it, but enough to notice. Enough to feel.

And with it, I noticed something else.

I stopped reaching for the camera.

There are almost no recent photos of me on my phone. I take one and immediately see my face as too round, my body as too soft, my angles all wrong. I delete it before it has a chance to exist.

And that's where it starts.

It’s subtle at first. Easy to miss. But it shows up in small ways. I speak less. I hesitate. I pull back. I assume I am less desirable, less impressive, less worthy of attention.

It doesn't stay contained to just photos.

The bigger I am, the smaller I shrink.

 

Not physically, but in the way I show up. In the things I hold back from, the ways I make myself smaller without saying it out loud.

And so I tell myself I’m just waiting. I’ll feel better when I lose it again. I’ll take pictures again when I look better. I’ll put myself out there when I’m smaller. As if visibility is something I have to earn.

And that's how I end up starting over. 

 

Recently, I started another weight loss journey.

I missed the sharper jawline. The flatter stomach. The version of myself that felt easier to photograph, easier to take up space in.

But it was also about control.

After everything shifted — my life, my home, my routines — I felt untethered. Like too much of my life had moved at once. My body felt like another thing slipping.

Watching my food again, watching the number move, paying attention in a way I hadn’t been... it gave me something steady when everything else felt uncertain.

And I can feel it already, down more than 25 pounds so far. The subtle lift. The steadiness. The structure returning. The way my confidence ticks up slightly when I catch my reflection and don’t immediately flinch.

And the way I start to feel a little more acceptable in my own skin.

That’s the part that unsettles me.

Because it tells me how closely I’ve tied my sense of worth to my size.

I can trace this thinking all the way back to high school. I remember crash dieting with a friend before a movie date with two boys. The goal wasn’t health. It wasn’t strength. 

 

It was to be wanted.

Somewhere along the way, I internalized a version of the same equation: that smaller meant safer, more lovable, more worthy of being chosen. And even when I got close to that version of myself, it never quite held.

Even at my smallest, I still found something wrong. The skin. The angles. The way nothing ever quite looked how I wanted it to. The finish line kept moving. I’d get there, and then immediately start looking for the next thing to fix.

What I’m starting to understand is that I’ve been bargaining with my body for permission. Permission to be photographed. Permission to be in photos with my kids instead of behind the camera. Permission to feel confident, to take up space, to exist without constantly editing myself down.

I know, logically, that my weight does not determine my intelligence, my work ethic, my resilience, my ability to rebuild. But knowing that and feeling it are not the same thing.

Because I still feel it.

I feel it in the way I second-guess myself. In the way I quiet my own voice. In the way I shrink myself down without even realizing I’m doing it.

The bigger I am, the smaller I become.

Not physically, but in presence. In how much of myself I allow to be seen, how much space I take up, how willing I am to be in the frame instead of just around it. 

 

I disappear from my own life in small, quiet ways: fewer photos, fewer risks, less boldness. I keep waiting to reappear.

And maybe that's the part I need to stop doing.

Not waiting. Not postponing. Not deciding I'll show up later, when I look different.

Maybe this time, the real work isn't just about losing weight.

Maybe it's about learning to show up anyway.

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Unexpected Caller (One Minute Memoir)

A Memoir on Extroverted Children, FaceTime Ambushes, and Parental Discomfort

Setting: March 2026

This year, I’m experiencing something new as a parent.

Holden has real friends. Not just classmates he mentions occasionally. Actual friends he texts, calls, FaceTimes, and plays Roblox with. They seem to communicate constantly.

This is unfamiliar territory for me. I am shy and socially awkward. Caleb is more like me. Quiet, a little reserved. The whole “kids casually calling each other and chatting for an hour” thing was never really part of our household before.

Holden, however, has embraced it fully.

Lately he’ll leave his computer open on FaceTime while they talk, which means the camera is usually pointed somewhere into the living room. If I’m sitting on the couch behind him, or walking past the room, I’m suddenly part of the background of their conversation.

I try not to think about it.

One evening they were FaceTiming on Holden’s phone instead.

Phone calls alone are already outside my comfort zone. FaceTime is even worse. A video call removes the comforting illusion that no one can see you.

A few times Holden has asked if I want to say hello to his friend.

I have politely declined.

“Oh. No. That’s okay.”

While they were talking one night, they started discussing the possibility of a playdate.

From across the room, Holden called out that he wanted to go to his friend’s house sometime soon. Without looking up from my book, I waved vaguely in his direction.

“Sure. That’s fine. Just have his mom text me and we’ll figure something out.”

I assumed the matter was settled. Instead, Holden stood up.

Before I fully understood what was happening, he had crossed the room and was holding the phone directly in front of my face. My face was now on the screen.

And on the other side of that screen was his friend’s dad.

I was not emotionally prepared for this.

“Hi,” he said cheerfully. “Yeah, he’s been talking about maybe having a playdate with Holden soon, if he’d like to come over sometime.”

I couldn’t even make eye contact.

Staring vaguely off to the side, I muttered something like, “Yeah, sounds good… maybe over the weekend.”

And then it was over.

No plans finalized. No details established.

I avoided eye contact with the phone for the rest of the night.

This post is part of my One-Minute Memoir series — short reflections on small moments that still manage to say something big.

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Not the Same, Not Yet (New Chapters, Ch. 3)

New Chapters ◦ Chapter Three: The Return ◦ Entry 2

This essay is part of my New Chapters series — a collection of personal essays organized into themed chapters that trace different seasons of rebuilding and becoming.

← Previous: Return to Self 

On living in the middle of rebuilding. 🌿

Life feels calmer than it did a year ago. Not perfect, not even close... but quieter. Fewer emergencies. More routine. More days that look mostly like the day before. And that should feel like arrival, I think. Like the moment where you finally exhale and say, okay, this is my life now.

But it doesn’t quite feel like that.

It feels steadier, yes. But also unfinished. Like I’ve stepped out of the storm, but the sky hasn't cleared enough yet to see what's next.

A lot of things in my life are still shifting beneath my feet. My living situation. My long-term plans. What the next few years are supposed to look like. There isn’t a clean, confident outline of the future yet. Just a lot of question marks and we’ll see.

But at the same time, I’ve started trying to grab hold of the parts I can control.

I’ve been focusing on my health in ways that feel different from before. Not dramatic resets or all-or-nothing plans, but steady, quieter changes. Eating less without feeling like I’m constantly fighting myself. Not always thinking about sugar and dessert in the background. Making choices that don’t feel heroic, just… calmer.

It’s strange how big that feels, even when it looks small on the outside.

I’ve been paying closer attention to my finances, too. Not in a new way, but in a steadier one. I’ve always tracked things, but now the follow-through looks different. I paid off all my credit cards. I have a plan for tackling my retirement loan next. The decisions I’m making aren’t about the moment anymore, they’re about giving myself more breathing room later.

None of it feels exciting. None of it feels like a big turning point. It just feels intentional.

And that’s new for me.

What’s strange is that while my circumstances still feel uncertain, my behavior feels steadier. I don’t know exactly where I’m headed, but I’m no longer drifting the way I was before. I’m making choices. I’m setting small goals. I’m paying attention.

So in some ways, I’m not the same.

But I’m also not fully settled into anything yet. My life still feels like it’s in motion. My plans feel flexible instead of fixed. There isn’t a clear outline of what the next few years look like, just a general sense that I’m trying to move forward instead of standing still.

So I’m not there yet either.

It’s like the foundation is being built before the house has a shape.

Sometimes that feels empowering. Sometimes it feels exhausting. Most days, it just feels like work.

But it’s work that feels like it belongs to me.

I’m not the same as I was. Not in how I treat my body, not in how I handle money, not in how I think about the future.

But I’m not fully who I’m becoming yet, either.

Right now, I’m somewhere in between. Steady, but not settled. Changing, but not finished. Learning how to hold on to the parts of my life I can shape, while the rest of it is still sorting itself out.

And maybe that’s not a failure to arrive.

Maybe that’s just what it looks like when you stop surviving and start building, even if you don’t know exactly what you’re building toward yet.

Not the same.
Not yet.
But finally moving forward.

Next: COMING SOON →

  

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M is For... Close Enough (One Minute Memoir)

A Memoir of Confidence, Guessing, and Calendar Chaos

Setting: February 2026

Holden has been working hard to learn time in the way that matters to kids. Days of the week, which days he has school, which days he doesn’t, and how long it is until the next thing he cares about arrives.

Naturally, months are still a work in progress.

We were sitting at the dinner table when Caleb decided to quiz him, the way older siblings do when they’ve recently mastered something and are feeling generous with their expertise.

“What comes after April?” Caleb asked.

“July,” Holden answered immediately, confidently, and completely wrong.

Caleb blinked. “No. It starts with an M.”

Holden didn’t hesitate. “November.”

“No!” Caleb sounded like an exasperated teacher losing control of the classroom. “M!”

Holden paused this time, thinking harder. You could almost see him flipping through mental flashcards, searching for something that fit the rules he’d been given.

“Monday,” he said finally, proud and certain.

Caleb collapsed into older-brother disbelief. I collapsed into laughter. Holden, unfazed, simply moved on, already satisfied with his effort.

 

In Holden's world, being wrong is just part of the process.

He’s still learning how time works: how weeks line up, how months follow each other, how calendars make sense to everyone else. But he shows up to every lesson with absolute confidence, even when he’s guessing, even when he’s wrong, even when April somehow leads directly to Monday.

And honestly? Watching him try — brave, certain, and completely unafraid to be wrong — feels like its own kind of right.

This post is part of my One-Minute Memoir series — short reflections on small moments that still manage to say something big.

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